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Post by Beauitful Disgrace on Wed Jun 30, 2010 1:36 am

What helps you fight the urge to harm for? Me there are 5 main things that help me.
1. Rubber bands
- you can write things on them such as bible vs. or other helpful sayings
2. Drawing where I want to harm with a red marker
- I have to use a marker because if I use a pen I will use it to harm
3. Using some thing called the butterfly method
- you draw a butterfly where you want to harm, name it and care for it by not harming. If you harm its dies ( sounds dumb but it has really helped me I have all kinds of colors that I use)
4. Keep a daily log of my feelings and my triggers
- I start one at the request of my counselor and didn’t think that it was going to help any I thought it was a waste of time but it has helped
5. This website
- knowing that I m not the only one having feelings like this has helped. Also by reading what others say I am better able to tell how I feel

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Post by ladyclaudette on Wed Jun 30, 2010 2:17 pm

This website - I agree, it's such a big help Smile
For me, crying really helps...it gets my emotions out and gives me something to do.

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Post by Steph on Wed Jun 30, 2010 9:38 pm

--Just learning how to get my emotions out and be verbal about them and not stuffing them has helped me tremendously.
--Realizing that it's ok to cry is another one for me. Even though I don't like to cry still, at times you just have to give yourself permission to and it's ok.
--Spending time praising God through music is another thing that helps me. Even when I don't feel like praising, singing it anyway is a must.
--Spending time in prayer, laying it all out for God has helped me as well. I can let him know if I'm angry and tell him exactly what I'm feeling and thinking because he knows it all anyway, whats the sense in stuffing it.
--Calling a friend who can help me put things into perspective.
--Being around people even when I don't feel like being around people. Even if I am miserable when I'm around them, at least I'm with them and not alone where I would have a greater temptation to SI.

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Post by Beauitful Disgrace on Thu Jul 01, 2010 10:26 pm

A few other things that have/are help/helping

Doing Impluse control logs ( they are used in the SAFE program)

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It sound really childish when I told my counselor about it but she thought that it was a great idae .. Making a bead bracelet. For every week that I was SI free I got three beads.If I SI I lost all my beads. When I said something about it I really didnt think that I was going to do it or that it would even help.I like my beads lol so now when I feel triggered I think about how Id have to give them up if I hard. They are also a good way to keep count of how long you havent harmed.As well as give you something to hold in you hands and play with when you are triggered.

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Post by Guest on Thu Jul 01, 2010 10:31 pm

shouldn't your bracelet be a necklace by now? haha Very Happy

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Post by Beauitful Disgrace on Thu Jul 01, 2010 10:37 pm

Invisibly Scarred wrote:shouldn't your bracelet be a necklace by now? haha Very Happy

Ive had to make more then one LOL ... I just started on my 4th one... hehehe

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Post by Guest on Thu Jul 01, 2010 10:38 pm

Beauitful Disgrace wrote:
Invisibly Scarred wrote:shouldn't your bracelet be a necklace by now? haha Very Happy

Ive had to make more then one LOL ... I just started on my 4th one... hehehe

You should make a necklace once your forth one ends Smile

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Post by Beauitful Disgrace on Thu Jul 01, 2010 10:41 pm

Invisibly Scarred wrote:
Beauitful Disgrace wrote:
Invisibly Scarred wrote:shouldn't your bracelet be a necklace by now? haha Very Happy

Ive had to make more then one LOL ... I just started on my 4th one... hehehe

You should make a necklace once your forth one ends Smile


But the beads wouldnt match ... and that would drive me crazy.. Im a little OCD hehe lol!

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Post by Guest on Thu Jul 01, 2010 10:46 pm

Beauitful Disgrace wrote:
Invisibly Scarred wrote:
Beauitful Disgrace wrote:
Invisibly Scarred wrote:shouldn't your bracelet be a necklace by now? haha Very Happy

Ive had to make more then one LOL ... I just started on my 4th one... hehehe

You should make a necklace once your forth one ends Smile


But the beads wouldnt match ... and that would drive me crazy.. Im a little OCD hehe lol!

No silly, I meant when you finish your fourth one, you could start a brand new necklace. Not combine the bracelets into a necklace. bounce

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Post by Beauitful Disgrace on Fri Jul 02, 2010 12:03 am

@ Katie .. ah ok .. maybe lol

My bracelets ... blue, pink and purple weeks 1 - 10 , Raindow 11-20, Green, blue, clear, pink and purple weeks 21-30 and Green,yellow and clear my newest...

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Post by Guest on Fri Jul 02, 2010 12:06 am

They are pretty! Smile Love them and I'm soo proud of you!

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Post by Steph on Fri Jul 02, 2010 9:33 pm

Wow, that's a wonderful idea Mo!!! I love you

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Post by allysontaylor on Sun Jul 04, 2010 1:17 am

I have a sorta random thing that I just found that helps me.
Whenever I get the urge, I just go brush my teeth for a few minutes.
By the time I am done scrubbin my teeth, I usually feel better.
And my mouth feels all clean Smile
Lol. Just a random idea Smile

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Post by GodsBabyGirl on Mon Jul 05, 2010 5:18 pm

I listen to music... Usually Skillet or something of that sort.
Or I go for a jog a few times around the block with my iPod.
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Post by Steph on Mon Jul 05, 2010 8:42 pm

Avril Lavigne is a good artist to listen to if you just need to let loose with some anger. I listen to her sometimes while I'm working out. Smile

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Post by thinking on Tue Jul 06, 2010 12:15 am

I like spending time with my dogs. They can help with loneliness.
Guitar also helps, and doing art. And exercise, I like running and swimming!
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Post by cassandra on Thu Jul 08, 2010 12:56 am

what helps me is running with all i've got, til i'm out of breath and don't think i can do anymore, then walking for a few minutes, and then running again, and keeping on repeating this cycle til i feel better and know i'm safer from myself. also taking a cold shower helps
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Post by Krystal on Thu Dec 09, 2010 10:40 pm

For me it's always talking from my first SI epsiode I got so scared and ashamed that I went to a crisis center in my community and thats how I ended up in a residental treatment facility for a few days. It helped alot being there. So I guess alot helps me
Talking with a professional
Music Music and more Music i find music that speaks to me
Writing
I was working out before class twice a week in what our school calls a gym. It's not much to anybody but me I miss the gym Sad
Im hoping this site will help too!
ATM I don't have alot to say but I think this is good start. I use to have a safety plan but I never copied it in my journal so I don't remember what it said.
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